Marriage is a lifetime contract for those who understand how it works, if we take a critical look since the beginning of time, when God created Adam, he asked for a helper and God gave him the woman. After their disobedient, Eve became Adam's wives, but one thing people tend to forget is that God gave them a duty in the form a curse; Genesis 3 vs To the woman he said, I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” 17 To Adam he said, “Because you listened to your wife and ate fruit from the tree about which I commanded you, ‘You must not eat from it,’ “Cursed is the ground because of you; through painful toil you will eat food from it all the days of your life. 18 It will produce thorns and thistles for you, and you will eat the plants of the field. 19 By the sweat of your brow you will eat your food until you return to the ground, since from it you were taken; for dust you are and to dust you will return.”
July 18 talks about Godly sorrow whereby we need to understand as a human being, we cannot but offend God and once we come to understand this, we can always ask for forgiveness; that s the case between husbands and wives, both need to understand the fact that they are meant to disagree but should always give room for forgiveness. Godly sorrow leads you to learn from your mistakes. David never repeated any of his mistakes because he was truly sorry for his sins. If for instance, you fall into fornication because you were close friends with someone of the opposite sex, godly sorrow will alert you the next time you are getting close to someone who could make you fall, so you can break off that relationship.
There is no two way about it, the man is the head of the family, 1st Peter 3: 1-6 says: "Wives, respect and obey your husbands in the same way. Then the husbands who do not obey the word of God will want to know God. They will want to know God because their wives live good lives, even though they say nothing about God. They will see that you live holy lives and respect your husbands. You should not be fine on the outside only. Some women make their hair nice. They wear gold things. They have fine clothes. But you must be fine in your heart. Have a heart that is gentle and quiet. That will not wear out. And God thinks it is worth very much. There were holy women long ago who trusted in God. They made themselves nice in this way. They obeyed their husbands. Sarah obeyed Abraham. She called him her master. You are her children if you do what is right and are not afraid of trouble."
Mama Adeboye has remained loyal to her husband for fifty years, do we still have such hope for marriage in this generation? This are critical questions we should ask ourselves, do we still have young ladies who dream of having that godly home, do we still have men who will love and adore their wives? Instead of criticizing a married couple who have achieved almost everything, we should check ourselves critically and see if love still exists or we are just following the path of the westerners.
A lot of marriages have been broken and this is as a result of the ideology gotten from socialists preachers', feminism is another ideology that is being misused by the so-called feminists; feminism was pushed forward to ensure women also participate in societal duties. As wives also submit to their husbands, the husband must also love their wives just like Christ and when there is an argument, give room for explanation and have this godly sorrow because marriage is a union meant to be forever. Do you feel otherwise about my article, let us engage each other in the comment box.