ItParents may experience a lot of pressure raising their children to contribute to the society and world. They requires parents who are mentally and emotionally strong.
Raising a kid who is tough mentally is a key, as this quality will help them. Here are tips on what parents can do to raise their children to be the best people they can be:
While you don’t to pretend that life is always a bed of roses, a positive outlook is key to helping your child build mental strength.
Avoid The Victim Mentality
Whether your child was cut from their sports team or failed to ace that maths test, emotionally strong parents encourage their children to turn their struggles into strength.
Rather than exaggerating their misfortune, try and help your child to identify ways to take postive action despite their circumstances. Rejection and failure are a part of life.
Don’t Let Your Life Revolve Around Your Child
Children who think they’re the centre of the universe can grow up to be self-absorbed and entitled. Mentally strong parents teach their children to focus on what they have to offer the world – and not what they’re owed.
Be A Guide, Not A Protector
Your child is the most important person in your life – it’s natural to instinctively want to protect him/her. But keeping children too safe stunts their development. Try to guide your child instead. Allow him/her to go out into the world and experience life even when it’s scary to let them go.
Don’t Give Your Child Too Much Power
If your child is the person who always decides what the family’s doing this weekend or eating for dinner, he/she has too much power. If your child is becoming more like an equal to you, it isn’t healthy for him/her. Mentally strong parents empower kids to make appropriate choices while maintaining a clear hierarchy.
Don’t Expect Perfection
It’s fine to have high expectations, but expecting your children to be perfect is unhealthy. Instead, recognise that your child isn’t going to excel in everything he/she does rather than pushing him/her to be better than everyone else. Help them to become the best version of themselves.
Mistakes Are Part Of Life
What better way of learning is there than learning from your mistakes? Emotionally strong parents let their children mess up, and allow them to face the natural consequences of their actions. Even though it’s hard for you as parent to see your child making a mistake, it's worth it in the long run.
Teach Your Children To Manage Their Emotions
Teach them about their emotions and how they can influence them. Help them recognise it and name the emotion. Help them to understand that they have choices in how to deal with the feelings.
Encourage Children To Face Fears Head-On
By avoiding anything scary, your child may never gain confidence. Help your child to take on the fear one step at a time. Cheer them on, praise their efforts and reward them for being brave. This’ll help them to handle stepping out of their comfort bubble into the real world.
Teach Different Life-Skills
Discipline is a very important factor in raising mentally strong children. You don’t discipline them to let them suffer, but rather discipline them to teach them to do better next time. Use consequences that teach specific skills, such as problem-solving skills, impulse control and self-discipline.
Focus On Their Strengths And Skills
While it’s much more encouraging to be told what our talents are, everyone meets people who will tell us what we can’t do or accomplish. So, point out what junior’s strengths are, rather than instilling fear and anxiety by reminding them of their weaknesses.
Talk About And Validate Their Feelings
People with mental strength acknowledge that feelings such sadness, fear and disappointmentare part and parcel of life, and don’t try to push them away. So, while a positive perspective is important, tell your child that uncomfortable emotions are perfectly normal. Label these feelings for them, and teach them how to cope with them in a healthy manner.