You meet a girl on a night out, you’re laughing, having fun, she’s touching you a bit and you are really hoping this will lead somewhere further than a kiss on the cheek. But after a while of flirting, touching, hugging, you here the ever dreaded “well it was nice to meet you”. So demoralizing! But hey, you got her number, she will definitely text you back and want to meet up.
So the next day comes around and you send a few messages back and fourth, she might have even have put in some winky faces. You ask her to hang out but she says she is busy this week, or she may even get “sick” the day of the date. 4-5 days go by and she eventually she just stops texting you, and that cool, sexy girl that you really hit it off with is gone forever.
Why does this happen? She definitely liked you when you met, should you have been more assertive? Were you too nice ? Too forward? I think almost every guy has been through at least something similar to this (including myself) But the thoughts that bothered me the most were “Could I have done something more with her that night? She did want me too? Maybe she doesn’t want to see me because I was not man enough to push for something more that night”Most of the people I have known consummated their marriage several days after they were married. Of course, that is if they hadn't done so before the wedding day itself ! In today's world, in which pre-marriage festivities go on for several days, if not weeks, the newly-weds are probably sleeping together even before they hit the suhaag raat bed.
Postmarriage, it is only when all the tiredness and fatigue of the wedding ceremonies have eased off that the couple gets into the mood. However, if the first few encounters are not pleasurable enough, these will probably leave a negative impact on the psyche.
Here's a message for all those out there who are about to hit the nuptial sack: Consummate at ease, or repent at leisure! Sex or making love can be the source of so much pleasure, provided a few clumsy, hasty, pain-filled strokes at the outset don't leave any kind of negative mark on the psyche of any of the two participants. My clinic cupboards are full of case histories of couples who thought that the suhaag raat was make or break day when the butterflies had to be set free. And they were finally presented with vaginismus or erectile dysfunction/impotence because of their unseemly haste.