Why you feel “lonely” in your relationship


Loneliness is not just reserved for those who are single or alone. As a matter of fact, many people in relationships and marriage still feel lonely and sometimes lonelier than people who are alone. People in a relationship can feel lonely because something isn’t right in the relationship itself or something essential is missing.

Let’s look at some reasons which explain why you might be feeling this way and provide ways to address this problem you may be facing.

Your relationship is not working as well as it was previously.

 When emotional connection is lost, couples tend to feel distant and lost from one another. When the spark in your love life dies down, some feelings of loneliness may arise even though your partner is physically present with you. When you look at the excitement you once felt with your partner in comparison to what you presently feel, there seems to be a certain disconnection.

Not being open

Choosing to deal with your feelings and emotional situations alone without your partner’s help can also contribute to feelings of loneliness within romantic relationships. You could be in a romantic relationship with someone but they might not know some personal things about you. This may sometimes lead to feelings of loneliness since you alone know and understand what you are going through.

Social media

Social media definitely contributes to people feeling lonely in relationships. Comparing your relationship to ones you see on Instagram stories and WhatsApp statuses can generate a sense of loneliness. Imagine it’s Val’s Day, and you had a nice time with your partner at home. But then your friend posts pictures with his or her partner at the beach. This may automatically have the tendency to make you feel quite lonely. When you compare your relationship to those on your social media, you create a nonexistent distance between you and your partner. It’s through this distance that feelings of loneliness start to arise. Studies have shown that the more time you spend on social media, the more feelings of loneliness you are likely to get.

After identifying the cause of your loneliness, the first step should be to talk to your partner about how you feel. Make him or her aware of the void in the relationship and openly discuss it. It’s most likely that if you’re feeling lonely, the other person is feeling lonely too.  If you talk to your partner and they’re also experiencing feelings of loneliness, the relationship is the likely cause. If you and your partner both feel lonely, it’s important to look at these feelings within the context of your relationship. Discuss the causes and look to find solutions. If you feel it’s time to call it quits, do not hesitate in going with your gut. If you both feel you can repair the broken cracks, do so speedily and get back to a place of complete love.

Be sure to enjoy your relationship very well. Don’t just sit unhappy in a relationship. Make sure it’s love all the time. Share your thoughts in the comments section below.



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