Mixed feelings over new TV show where women ask their men to marry them

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It's often regarded as one of the most significant days in a woman's life. "Will you marry me?" her partner asks one day. Then she determines if she wants to spend the rest of her life with the individual.

Traditionally, the men would arrange the proposal, select the ring (with some help from the potential wife), and determine when and where to propose.

But, as the years have passed, so have the plans.

A new show on Honey TV is now providing women the option to ask their partners for their hand in marriage, a notion that is still relatively new in South Africa.

The show has only aired a few episodes, but South Africans have got a lot to say about it. Who will then pay lobola? Do they purchase rings? These are some of the questions that have arisen since the release of Will He Say Yes? strike the monitors

Presenters Pamela Mtanga and Karabo Ntshweng discuss the show with Drum, presenting it as a feel-good show about empowering women.

"It's all about women who decide to take issues into their own hands, to take the risk, and to question conventional standards." "This play is particularly for folks who can retain an open mind," explains Pamela.

According to Karabo, the ladies in the play should be viewed as role models.

"Aside from marriage offers, these women are doing something that will make them happy, such as taking control of their life and finding happiness." "I believe that many people who see the show will identify with them, and many would wish they were bold enough to do the same," she adds.

Pamela and Karabo both think that the show's material will be relatable to women in various marital circumstances, including themselves. Pamela is unmarried, whereas Karabo is married.

In African culture, males must pay lobola when they wish to marry, and Pamela explains that as a show, they don't get involved in the discussion of who would be paying for lobola because it is the women who are proposing.

"Asizingeni," she chuckles, "we're not getting involved."

"The fact that women are proposing on the program does not excuse males, nor does it mean that culture should be ignored." Women are just nudges in the correct way for their spouses, but they may still commit to culture."

They admit that there were times when they were unsure if the guys would accept the proposals.

Pam, though she is not yet ready, would desire to marry one day.

"There is no need to haste. After spending so much time with Karabo, I learned that it is OK to take your time in a relationship. To get to know each other, to travel and explore together, and to make errors together without rushing into marriage. "Get married after you've done everything and still pick each other," she advises.

Karabo recently got engaged to her 11-year-long partner, and she says she wouldn't have it any other way.

"We've been together since I was 19, and my twenties were my selfish years, when I could do whatever I wanted." I had no desire to marry in my twenties, and this is in no way a criticism on others who do, but I felt that I needed to know who I was, and now I am. "Babies, on the other hand, will have to wait for a long," she explains.

"We get to watch lovely South African stories where ladies put their emotions on their sleeves and display their passion on this show, which is fantastic." I was frequently reminded of the statement "well behaved women rarely create history" — not because the performance is irresponsible, but because these women are breaking boundaries and challenging cultural standards. "They're going out there to find happiness," Karabo says.

Pamela want for viewers to feel empowered and motivated after seeing the presentation.

"I get the impression that this is a feel-good program." People should remember that whatever they want to achieve in life, they should just do it. It does not have to be a wedding. People must understand that they do not have to do things the same way they have always done them," she says.

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